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I stopped keeping a TO DO LIST and I've started making a daily What I Did Today list. I have a small section of Things To Do. And I'm not afraid to put the most minuscule things on this list. Got out of bed, take a shower and got dressed, ate lunch, (not on my list of To Do's, but it got done. But I focus more on what I DID get done, rather than "I did one thing on my To Do List today, I must be a loser." Nope... Look at the OTHER list, and give yourself a pat on the back.

Energy bankruptcy. I really don’t know how to get out of this. My body just hurts too much. Don’t have any money as I’m disabled, living in New York with 3 teenagers. Battling 4 court cases; child support, custody, rent arrears and divorce- whom I split loving him. Even my cat is sick and can’t afford a vet. Don’t have family support nor friends. Go to therapy weekly and take medications for a long time. The progress is so slow 😢 I feel desperate. Try to do very simple things everyday to not give up on life, but just house chores can be too much often. Hard to have routines when my body is calling the shots due to Fibromyalgia and the umbrella of symptoms it comes with. I’m grateful i have a roof over my head, some food, basic clothing, health insurance, and my kids are healthy. However, I also wish my body didn’t hurt 😞every single day , have some energy, be able to work and pay my rent on time, have a support system, work out, not let my depression and anxiety dictate my eating habits. Don’t want to victimize myself. But it’s overwhelming 😭 everyday is a surprise. Not knowing what I would be able to do or not do.

Recovery is possible but it's so slow. We need rest to be able to bring ourselves further to our goals bit-by-bit.

Omg I love you!!! Get out of my head!! I’m literally three minutes and 55 seconds in and I have blurted out so many passionate yeses which I’m sure my neighbors reckoned that I was having a good afternoon until they heard me say “oh my God you get me!!!” You never cease to amaze me, with the finest details into these lived experiences, and the manner in which are able to convey that huge arrange of emotional experience into such contact amounts of time. I am so grateful for your benevolence and brilliance!! The other thing that feels good is that most mental health content creators are women, and if they’re men, they tend to be in the golden years, age range, so there’s also this shared, gender, virtual attunement that I don’t know about the other men but at least I am able to benefit from your content. (pardon any typos, as I used dictation to text)

Yeah I can’t even muster enough energy to respond to messages on social media. It’s been burning me

I'd love to see you write a book called Psychological Minimalism.

Dr Scott ur mic quality dropped idk if its just me

Wow! Great job on this video. Very insightful and well stated. Thanks. Glad to know I’m not the only one.

Whenever my husband was being unfaithful to me, I would fall into a severe depression and be very angry. I think it was because I was in denial and therefore, I could not express what my feelings were. Honestly I never suspected. But I was a very good empath to a covert narcissist. My otherwise mild depression ended when I faced the truth and got out. There was always a heaviness while I was with him: everything seemed to take too much effort. And there was a spiritual deadness pervading our existence. There is such a lightness and joy now that I escaped him. But still I have to blame much of it on myself, reason being I stayed in denial for a long time (30 years). And I came out of it as a very distorted thinking mess. Later I learned that what he did was who he was, and I had to learn that was not who I was. He did not determine my value, nor my values. Also I used to run to food for love. Now whenever I open the fridge, without even knowing sometimes, I reach for protein, just a small amount, like a deviled egg.

Thank You Dr Scott.... i Absolutely Love your Videos, you Are An Amazing Human Being... giving your time to folk, like me, who cant afford the Luxury of services like yours❤😊 Your videos have been an Absolute Godsend To Me, Thank You from the bottom of my heart. Xx

I think this everyday

16:39 This is a systemic issue thanks to Reaganomics. Unions have lost their power, wages have stagnated, and the cost of living has gone up. Sure, it's a good idea to keep your debt down, but that is quickly becoming less viable to less people everyday.

That fits with the message I got out of Viktor Frankl days ago: I felt live has no meaning at the moment - but what I got wrong my whole life is, that meaning emerges when you do something. So when I do nothing , then there can no meaning created, so it is ok to feel empty when depression stopped me. I start to see this as a positive and not to be ashamed anymore to be such a wreck sometimes. My problem is still, there are things I want to do, but it seems I am still wired to not do it, the "main things" I have in grip, e.g. like money and cook my own food or dealing with bureaucracy - but when it comes to implement my passion I seem to fail to get over the point of activation. I feel hopeless then and everything feels it wants to shut down. I'll try your tip to re calibrate the water-hoe focus and "get some". Thank you for your work & kind greetings from the other side of the planet! ...and if you should need help to save the audio, do not hesitate to contact me. This one was hard to listen this time.

Your videos and book have been so helpful to me! Thank you for putting out this content!!

They're lying they're furious they just cant believe how farked everything is and can't put it into words

I had a therapist who said to me "avoidance = anxiety." I hate how right she is. 😂😂😂

Totally ineffective for me - I was almost suicidal in doing the focus on obligations thing…

Ramsey understands debt but not our monetary system. 34.5 trillion national debt. The country is bankrupt. If you have savings buy Gold and Silver. They will preserve wealth as the Federal Reserve and Government continue to destroy your standard of living through inflation. This is not by accident people. Your wealth and purchasing power is under attack. Invest in real things, Gold, Silver, land, Yourself.

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Hello Dr. Scott. I totally agree with you. I just think this video could have been longer and could tackle how to change into the mindset that makes this possible. I used to not be able to take the "just do it" advice. It would make me close my eyes and stick my head in the sand. Then I somehow, thank God, cultivated a sense of trusting that if I keep at it, things will get better. I believe this is called developing "internal safety?" I'm not sure. My old mindset was resistant to accepting reality. My new mindset was able to only after a lot of trial and error. I think this mindset shift is very important because I would go to such great lengths to avoid the responsibilities that I felt I had no control over myself. I also think emotions are not broken. It's thinking patterns and beliefs, which can be changed, that are broken and need to and can be updated and fixed. Anxiety just tells us something is wrong. If you actually listen to it, it's telling you to solve a problem. It's the thought that "I can't handle this" that's one "problem" it is telling you about. The solution is to cultivate a belief that you can and will get through your problems. In my experience, that is not easy. I really had to count on God. And I credit Him for my recovery. One advice that God gives is be patient. God is with the patient (is that in the Bible? It's in the Quran). Everything is temporary, and if you keep at your tasks, they *will* solve, God willing. Something that I did when I didn't feel like working was journal on why, what I need and how to proceed. And I drank coffee, lol. It helped lift the unwillingness (but be warned it can also make you more anxious).

My maternity psychologist once told me: Em, if normal people have 5 batteries each day and you only have 1, you need to accept that. Plain and simple. I took that to heart. I do not function like others, I need more rest. But I do agree with you. I really do. While I do have limited energy and sound sensitivity, I need to power through sometimes so I can feel relieved and accomplished. Responsibilities are important.

Anxiety diapears when you stop being afraid of it. Allow it to happen and it wil dissolve. For example, you get an attack in a grocery store. Instead of fighting it you taunt it. Say to yourself. go ahead and knock me out if you can! the worst thing that can happen is fainting. And somebody will call an ambulance maybe. But we all know that never happens anyway. Trust me, I struggled with anxiety for 15 years until I learned not to fight it. Let it be, and it will be gone

I am here to say everything you said works for me...even the application to finances. I figured it out a long time ago though, after therapists told me the opposite as you also mention. Some really bad days only one or two things...maybe just doing dishes or vacuuming get done but it's still something I'm not stressed about anymore for a day or two. And by the way...I paid off almost $12,000 in debt in 21 months on social security disability using the method you spoke of.

Oh my god! You have no idea how badly I needed to hear this. Thank you so much. ❤

I can't bare it anymore...

For me (hope others can relate), AFTER I deal with the thing that needs to get done (more recent example: needed brakes worked on...thank goodness only needed fluid flush😊), I need rest for a day or two and not use any mental energy. Other times, before I deal with problem my brain can't make good decisions so I allow myself only one afternoon to not make decisions and that evening or next morning then work on it.

I'm that way too about stress. I will only get more anxious if I try to distract. I just suck it up, when I can, and take a day to do it until it's done. Thank you Dr. Scott

On top of all this I have people I got to deal with. It seems here lately the people I turn to for support have more problems then I do. It seems Heman Service People have gotten so defensive and controlling. At times I feel I am helping them. Forget about how stressful my man friend makes me feel. Thank GOD I got Leo my dog..

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I agree but also disagree: This works if you've got a lot of tasks to do (eg problems with solutions), but what I don't think this works for is if you have a lot of problems (tasks without solutions), I also think it's important to allow yourself time to be you, but not to over indulge. So cutting everything out if even the simplest problem is going to take years to solve it isn't necessarily viable because you might come out having solved the problem, but having nothing of yourself left either.

It is so hard to give advice on motivation and self care ... Because each and every situation is so unique. Sometimes when feeling overwhelmed the exact right thing could be... -Ignore it, carry on and finish. -Pause accept it is difficult and just accept whatever progress you can make then carry on. -Stop everything and immediately assess how in need you are of some self care. Do it. -perhaps bouts of depression are so dangerous for you that you need to avoid them at all costs right now . For you it might be smart to stop and immediately find a comfy place to relax first before you can think right. Or a million other potential responses. All could be the exact right thing at that moment and only you might have the necessary information to know which. I personally think it's a missed opportunity to push for any one approach because it won't apply to everyone. I much prefer a "here is another method that might help" vs "this is a better approach" Sometimes you've gotta kick yourself to move... Absolutely true. It it is also absolutely true that sometimes you need to listen to your symptoms and know when you really do need a break. To use an athletic metaphor there are going to be daya lifting weights where you won't feel like doing it... And then there are days where your body is healing and you really could hurt yourself if you push on those particular days.

Perfect advice for a Monday! Gotta focus on one or two important must haves so that we can deeply enjoy our hard earned relaxation time.

No no no no, this is making me more miserable. Shutting down 💀

You have to care because it can hurt someone else when you don't. You are needed.

aaargh

Dr Scott, could you please share with us tips on how to stay in reality for those of us who maladaptively daydream? Probably something like getting and staying sober

Wow! It's the first time I've heard advice about this that makes sense! Thank you!

This is good advice. I’m grateful I’ve developed seasonal hobbies that are easy to plan around (hunting, fishing, gardening).

Dave Ramsey is a con artist. Anyone who supports him is really nto seeing him for who he is.

The Holistic Psychologist (Nicole) just had a couple videos this last week talking about how to break out of a freeze state--a state of feeling overwhelmed and unable to take action (vs. fight and flight states).

I don't know of anything I can get rid of or check off, they are all ongoing things

This is very timely for me. Thank you.

Audio not as good today?

Once I had this, pretty severe for me. I couldn't get out of bed. My doctor told me that my brain was so overwhelmed with stress that it decided to shut down and force me to rest. I understood that after few months. I slowly came back to life in a similar way you recommended in this video.

Thank you, Doctor❤

If this works, it’s going to save me, hopefully if it worked it keeps working in the future

True - mental energy is finite. On waking this morning I thought about the notion of mental "capital'. This video adds to my understanding. Concentrate and conquer!

its possible to feel like this from lack of vitamins/minerals?

This video made me emotional. Everyday life feels very much like swimming upstream and I don’t like that this is my reality. Distraction is definitely my go to. I will try your suggestions, but maybe 30 minutes to start. Thank you for helping me feel seen.

Very honest and truly sincere empathetic video. I can see that Your own mental health struggles have given you a unique perspective and insight into other people’s pain and suffering. You have a great gift for reaching out and helping others with realistic practical advice which we can all benefit from!( not some empty words we often hear)Thank you 😊 God bless 🌸